Super Fan, Anne Isacowitz Scarvi, joined our private Facebook Group this year. It was there that we learned how much we have in common with her and how inspired we are by her zest for life. Here are her answers to our questions.

What did you do or do for work?

I worked as a property manager for 20+ years. I also helped a friend run a successful niche home services business for almost ten years. As a single mom, I needed flexibility.

Always, I am a writer. I have written two novels. I’m reworking the second intensively right now. I write voice driven, literary fiction. The publishing industry has changed greatly since the mid ‘90s, when I marketed my first book. I’ve learned the hard way that being an artist means to work for yourself and for the work itself. That your worth as a writer extends far beyond what once was conventional book publishing. It’s been a tough and chastening lesson. These days, I’m using a blog as a “cork board” to explore the creative process. Check out Rothkos Roldex if you’re interested.

What would you do if you had the whole day for yourself?

I’ve loved shopping (clothes! shoes! beauty products!) since my early teens. I’d spend a few hours bopping around San Diego’s Fashion Valley Mall, iced coffee in hand. I don’t buy a lot, but enjoy the sense of marketplace. Lunch at the healthy and delicious True Food Kitchen. Their Ancient Grains bowl is a must! I’d then go see my brilliant Reiki therapist, Megan, for 1.5 hours of energy work and healing. It gets pretty intense! Last, I’d head to a Himalayan salt cave to relax, breathe the salty air, and detox from the Reiki. I love the gorgeous pink-and-rose panels of salt.

Day’s over! I go home to my husband and our pets and watch Mad Men for the 35th time!

What is the best thing about being a woman?

The close relationship with the creative life force. The connection I feel to generations of my female relatives, especially my great-grandmother. Every time I light Shabbat candles, I am very aware of her and all my female ancestors who came before her and who lit candles exactly the same way.

What advice do you have for younger women?

Learn to be alone. It may feel uncomfortable at first. Do it anyway; it will save you from a world of pain and damage. Never look to others, especially romantic partners, for validation and self definition. It’s easy to let someone occupy the space best reserved for yourself. Those choices are often bad. Don’t do it.

Remember: You are your own best company.